Well hello there little guy!

25 weeks
Happy new year to everyone and I hope you had a good holiday season! Well here we are at 25 weeks, and I am still in disbelief that this is happening to me. We had a scan this morning and we got a nice shot of the little guys face (top left corner of pic above), his arm and hand (bottom centre of pic). He totally looks like he already has a little mohawk, which is the main reason I am so excited to have a boy! I love little boys with mohawks! Too cute. His estimated weight is 875g, which is a bit heavier then the average 660g for 25 weeks. So it looks like I am having a bruiser! At least he is growing nicely and there are no concerns at all, everything is going smoothly with no bumps. Fingers crossed it stays that way!

I am feeling really good. I read so many other blogs and I really am having a very nice and easy pregnancy so far. I have heartburn, my feet and hands are a bit swollen, my tummy aches if I move too quickly, I am tired and sometimes sleeping is bit of a challenge…but seriously….it is all minor compared to some symptoms I read other ladies having. I am so thankful that I can relax and start to enjoy being pregnant. It is such a blessing after such a long road and so much heartache. That is what I always wished, that when I did get pregnant (finally after six years!) that it would be an event-free pregnancy. So far, so good.

So we are all booked at the hospital. That was an event. I have never filled out so many forms in my life (other than taxes!). We have registered for a private room with an additional bed for DH. I told him he doesn’t have to stay over, but at least it gives him the option if he wants to, or I need him there! It is really nice knowing that we have that option, as I have no idea what to expect. The whole delivery component of this is a bit scary and overwhelming. I read a lot about having a ‘birth plan’, but I am not sure I want to be too set in my mind or create expectations for myself that might not be possible when this baby finally does decide to come. There is so much unpredictability around giving birth, and although DH and I will be included in as many decisions as possible, some may be out of our hands. I don’t want to feel powerless at all, I think I more want to feel empowered that I fully trust my Dr. Maybe I am being naive, but I know that creating too much expectation always leads to disappointment. I will have the conversation with my Dr and DH and we will go over scenarios and what I feel comfortable with, but at the end of the day a lot of the decisions may not be mine if there are challenges. I don’t know….what did you guys do? For those of you who had a birth plan and it changed…did you feel powerless and defeated? That is what I am trying to avoid.

I do want to thank Ozifrog (Jo) for recommending to take this time during preganancy to read up on parenting. I am reading ‘Bringing up Bébé’ by Pamela Druckerman, and am interested if any of you have read this…opinions? Suggestions for good parenting books you read? I am going to withold my thoughts/opinions on this book until I am actually a parent, as I am sure what you ‘want’ to do and what you ‘actually’ end up doing are probably different. For those of you who are parents….give me the real deal. What did you think you would do that totally got thrown out the window once baby arrived?

All the best for 2014 to all of you, wherever you are on your journey.


8 thoughts on “Well hello there little guy!

  1. Oh and re parenting: EVERYTHING comes down to connection. So parent YOUR child, not the one in the books. The most important thing is to stop, observe, reflect, try something different, respond, connect, try again. Learn lots, but don’t let anyone “should” on you, and don’t let someone’s rules get in the way of listening to YOUR little individual.

    Pinky McKay is another great one (web, books, Facebook).

      • Yep. Confidence is a huge part of it. Letting other peoples advice just slide by if it doesn’t “fit”. It’s actually one benefit of being an older mum, for me, I think.

      • So true! I think being older definitely has it’s benefits. I feel so much more sure of what I want and need. I think that is a good blog theme right there…being an older mum!

  2. Oh so cute!!! Great pic. We only got butt pictures 🙂
    I’m glad you’re doing the reading up on parenting thing. I’ve ended up totally attachment parenting, even though I thought it was a load of rubbish beforehand! The reading about it and the reality of doing it with a living breathing person are quite different contentions I guess.i think I told you we love brain rules for baby, there’s a book or free videos which are really good. This book changed how hub-in-boots supported me with a newborn. Totally. He loved it.

    Re the birth plan. Did one, followed it. But couldn’t even think about it til about 35 weeks, really. Understand options now, make decisions later is my advice. And of course it isn’t set in stone. I found it quite helpful for US. I wrote a page for the medicos, but also a page of suggestions for hub-in-boots. If I freak out, things that may work are……. DONT SAY…….if you feel helpless…….if I can’t make a medical decision, you need to ensure you are clear on risks and benefits of each procedure, and do what is best for bub and me. Push staff for more info and time, don’t be pushed into decisions etc. This really opened up our conversation about the big day and helped us talk some things through. Eg if something goes wrong, you are to stay with the baby at all times. If I am I’ll and baby is ill, go with the baby. It is good to have these conversations ahead of time, and a birth plan helps with that. Happy to email you mine if it helps.

  3. My only expectation was that I would probably suck at it. A few months in, I was pleased to see I was all in and doing my best . . . and that it was enough, really, as with the other parents around me. 🙂

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